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PARENTING/DEALING WITH TEENS
Most parents, at one time or another, question their abilities to parent. Some parents do not want to be like the parents they had and strive to ‘do it’ differently.
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You mean your child did NOT come with a handbook?
Do any of these scenarios sound familiar?
My child does not listen to me - ever.
I ask nicely. Then I ask again, still nicely. Then I get a bit louder.
Still no move is made on my child’s end. I then yell. I have been known
to swear and curse.
I still don’t get anywhere. I can ask 500 times. I give my child
anything and everything. I hope I’ll get something in return. But I
don’t.
My younger child is now learning this behaviour.
HELP! I don’t know what to do!!!
I can’t quite figure out how to say no and stick with it.
I used to be really good at saying ‘no’ to my kids and sticking with it.
Except I’m not sure what happened or when I happened that I became a
sucker.
If I’m asked once or twice, I can say no and have no issues sticking
with it. BUT, if I’m asked more than that, and over and over again, I
tend to give in.
I feel terrible that I cannot stick to my guns. I hate that I’m beaten down. And by a 12 and 14 year old!
I can say no at work. I can say no to most of my friends. I cannot say no to my parents and the worst is my kids. My parents I don’t live with, so I can live with not being able to say no to them. BUT I’M SUPPOSED TO PARENT MY KIDS! I do know what’s best for them; not that they agree with me.
I thought saying ‘no’ would be sooo much easier than this!
Balancing work, kids, and my life (wait, what life??) seems
impossible.
I have been back at work now for 14 months, after being a
stay-at-home-mom for 15 years.
I love my work, I love my three kids, I love my husband. But I feel like I am being spread so thin. I work all day only to come home at the end of the day and work until I call it a night at midnight.
My kids have lives of their own. My husband plays hockey and sees his buddies. He tells me I should go out with the ‘girls’. But when??? I’ve tried to balance my life, but something always suffers.
How can I have my cake and eat it too? I wish I could balance my life just a little bit better!
I’m
starting over and trying to rebuild my life, but I’m having difficulty
getting my kids on board.
My wife and I divorced two years ago. Moving on after an 18 year marriage was tough enough. I lost my best friend (or at least I thought she was).
I lost those friends that were ‘ours’ as they were forced to take sides. I went from being a live-in dad to being a weekend dad, and my kids had to go along with that.
Now, two years later, I’m happy again. I have made new friends – they are ‘my’ friends. I love my new job. I love my new home. I have even met someone. Except, it seems my kids don’t want me to move on; its like they don’t want me to be happy.
They were beyond mad at me when I moved 20 minutes away (I used to be 5 minutes away). And now that I’ve met someone, they refuse to come over when she’s there. I want them to be part of my new life. I want them to be happy for me.
I don’t get it – their mom has a boyfriend…why are they okay with her moving on?
I want nothing more than to have my children in my life…but I also want to be happy…can I have both???
I want to be my child’s friend.
I want to be cool. I think I am cool. I want my kids to think I’m cool. I think I dress pretty funky. I listen to my kids’ music. I’m into their T.V. shows. I do whatever they ask of me. I hang out in their room and with their friends. Their friends love me.
I want to be their best friend. I think it is so neat that I know everything about my kids’ lives. I’m fairly certain they tell me everything – I tell them everything.
The only thing is, my kids don’t always listen to me and they think they can get away with murder. I usually let them get away with it too. When I say ‘no’ they often think I’m joking. I’m not sure how to change this? I’m also not sure I want to jeopardize our friendship.
I don’t know what to do? My mom was never around for me…I promised myself I would be different for my kids.
I feel inadequate as a parent, and at times (okay, most of the time) I feel lost and helpless when it comes to parenting them.
How do I know I’m doing things right?
Sometimes I overhear strangers interacting with their kids and I find
myself wishing I could do what they do. When I hear my friends talk
about their children, I just keep quiet.
My kids often say “you’re so mean” and “you’re the worst mother, I wish
I had a different one”. When they say this, I cry.
I try to do the best I can, but sometimes I feel it is not enough.
I don’t need to be perfect…I just want to be good enough.
We think our child has an alcohol problem.
Our son is 23 years old. He dropped out of high school just before graduation. He has just lost his job, again. In fact, he does not seem to be able to hold down a job.
Eviction has also come up recently, but we haven’t gotten a straight answer over what that’s about. His friends are going nowhere…all of them are drop-outs. We don’t even know where he found them.
His girlfriend has finally broken up with him (we knew it was only going to be a matter of time). He sleeps till 1pm or 2pm, after he’s out until 2am or 3am. We’re convinced its vodka not water in his water bottle, and he starts drinking from his water bottle about 20 minutes after waking.
His sister wants nothing to do with him. She has reached out to him so many times and he has always been cold towards her. He hardly come over to or house anymore and over the past few months has become fairly distant, except when he needs money.
He’s our son and we love him. We don’t want to abandon him and so we give him the money he asks for (this is a point of contention for us). We do think he uses the money for alcohol, not for food or rent. We’re not 100% sure if he is in fact, an alcoholic.
We have tried asking him, but he denies it. Is this our fault? Could we have done something to prevent it? Where did we go wrong?
